TIRED OF WAITING FOR LOVE? 5 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T GET IMPATIENT
Waiting for love is very rewarding
Marriage is a life-long journey, and waiting for love may be tough, but it’s the wise thing to do.
Just ask Banky.
After years of searching, he finaly struck gold with sweet Adesua Etomi.
Waiting for true love is like waiting at the bus-stop for the right bus. If you impatiently jump on the wrong bus, you will find yourself at a place you don’t want to be.
5 reasons you shouldn’t rush into just any bus to begin your marital journey with.
1. The bus is not going your way.
Certain people make it clear from the onset that their goals in life are totally different from yours. You may be ready to settle down, but he or she isn’t. Or you may envision you and your partner as power couples, ruling in their different careers, but he or she believes a woman should sit at home and care for the kids.
There’s also the issue of different core values. If you have strong disagreements about key issues you both hold dear, then your buses are heading in different directions.
Wait for a bus going your way so you don’t find yourself in a destination you don’t want to be.
2. The bus SEEMS to be going your way
If you are unsure of the person, and he/she is not making effort to clarify those key gray areas you have, then that may not be your bus.
You need to have peace of mind about whoever you are with. Do they really love you for you? What are their intentions for both of you? Do you have similar goals and core values?
Don’t begin the journey of marriage with someone who you have deep uncertainties about.
If you are not sure, then try to get clarity with communication or you let that bus go.
Your own bus will come. Keep waiting for love.
3. The bus is rickety looking.
If you don’t really find someone attractive or sexually appealing, then no need hopping on that bus. Don’t say because you’ve been waiting for love for so long, or because of financial security, or status, or whatever enticing thing the person is bringing to the table, you will try to manage.
You don’t manage people. You take them for who they are and love them and their imperfections.
4. The bus looks good but sounds funny.
Internal beauty is also very key. If she has a nasty attitude, or he shows signs of aggression, you may want to let that bus go. No matter how beautiful or handsome a person is, if you notice ugly character traits in that person, even if it’s just to other people, then better wait for another bus.
People’s personalities, especially the bad side, get amplified after marriage. So if she used to just insult only her family members while you were dating, after marriage she will add you and all your ancestors. Or if he used to just hit the wall and fling things around while dating, after marriage you may find yourself being flung out of a story building.
If they have only external beauty, then keep waiting for love.
5. The bus is standing only:
You need someone who makes you a priority in their life. They have to show you matter by going out of their way to make you happy. Don’t be with someone who causes you pain or can see you unhappy and not do anything about it.
Is there so much baggage already on the bus that there’s little room for you?
If the person has too many things that are more important to them than your relationship together, you may find yourself hating the journey together.