THE CON IN CONDOMS: IS YOUR SAFE SEX REALLY SAFE?
One of the biggest cons of modern civilization is the condom.
A blessing and a curse, the condom has been very helpful in averting the spread of STDs and unwanted pregnancies; and also very instrumental in causing a number of them.
The fact of the matter is that there are multiple reasons why a condom could fail to protect the users. And sadly, a lot of users are not aware of the high chances of condoms failing.
Some do not even know the things they do or don’t do to cause a condom to fail. And when it does fail, sometimes the users are not even aware the condom has failed them, till they later start seeing symptoms of one thing or the other.
But why exactly do condoms fail?
TYPICAL REASONS CONDOMS FAIL & RATE OF FAILURE
- Breakage: In various studies, between 0.8 percent and 40.7 percent of participants reported the experience of a broken condom. In some studies, the rates of sex with a broken condom were as high as 32.8 percent.
- Slippage: Between 13.1 percent and 19.3 percent of participants reported condom slippage.
- Leakage: Condoms leaked in between 0.4 percent and 6.5 percent of sexual encounters studied, with 7.6 percent of men and 12.5 percent of women reporting an experience with a leaky condom.
The above mentioned reasons are all based on the condom malfunctioning by itself. But let’s even assume the condom itself is perfectly perfect, it could still fail because of how you used it.
YET MORE REASONS CONDOMS FAIL
- Late application: Putting a condom on after intercourse has already begun.
- Early removal: Taking a condom off before intercourse was over.
- Unrolling a condom before putting it on: Completely unrolling a condom before putting it on.
- No space at the tip: Failing to leave a reservoir for semen at the tip.
- Failing to remove air: Air needs to be squeezed from the tip of the condom before use.
- Inside-out condoms: Rolling on a condom inside out and then flipping it the other way around, potentially exposing their partner to bodily fluids.
- Failing to unroll all the way: Starting intercourse before a condom was unrolled all the way.
- Exposure to sharp objects: Opening condom packets with sharp objects or otherwise exposing the latex to tearing.
- Not checking for damage: When last did you check a condom for damage before use?
- No lubrication: Using condoms without lubrication increases the risk of a break.
- Wrong lubrication: When using latex condoms, also using oil-based lubrications such as lotion, hand creams, vegetable oil and other mineral oils can degrade the condom.
- Incorrect withdrawal: Failing to promptly and properly withdraw after ejaculation.
- Condom reuse: Reusing a condom during a sexual encounter.
- Incorrect storage: Storing condoms in conditions outside of the recommendations on the package.
- Expired Condom: Condom failure can be caused by not being aware of the expiration date of the product.
In typical use, condoms are around 85% effective, presenting a 15% risk of causing pregnancy or STDs. Even when used correctly, and worn/taken-off perfectly, a male condom is still about 98 per cent effective.
It is not all doom and gloom though. Condoms do offer a high percentage of protection – just not 100%. And no matter how much of an expert you may be at using the condom, or how perfectly you used it, it still has a chance of failing, leaving you exposed to several things.
6 THINGS CONDOMS MAY NOT PROTECT YOU FROM
If I had a dollar for every time I heard a guy said “We used a condom so the baby can’t be mine”. Arrrrgghhhhh!
2. Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
Yes, you can get all forms of STDs, including HIV, despite the fact that you used a condom.
3. Skin-to-skin transmitted diseases.
Some sexual transmitted diseases can also be transmitted via skin contact. These include diseases like Herpes, HPV the cause of Genital Warts and Cervical Cancer, Genital Crabs or Pubic Lice, as well as Body Lice otherwise known as Scabies.
4. Sly sexual partners.
For their own selfish agendas, there are girls who secretly puncture condoms with a needle or pick up the used condom from the trash and save it in the fridge. And there are guys who deliberately do not wear the condom properly or even quietly slide it off during intercourse. Protect yourself by yourself.
5. Getting heartbroken.
During sex, a hormone is released when you orgasm called oxytocin which makes women especially, to feel like they are in love with their sexual partners. As condoms do not protect you from oxytocin, you may find yourself “falling in love” for the wrong reasons and getting your heart broken.
6. Consequences of sin.
If you are single and fornicating or married and committing adultery, condom will not protect you from the consequences of sin. Not to judge you but – God will judge you.
So please let’s help ourselves by ourselves.
Guys, save yourself from baby mama drama. And ladies, save yourself from the risk of becoming a single mum.
Or even the risk of being forced to marry someone because of circumstances. Or even much worse, the risk of losing your life to a disease.
A doctor was once quoted to have said…
“Saying that the use of condoms is ‘safe sex’ is in fact playing Russian roulette. A lot of people will die in this dangerous game.”
Don’t use a condom, use your head. Abstain from sex till you get married. And if you are already married, be faithful to your spouse.
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