ON WOMEN & DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: THE TONTO DIKEH SAGA – Alexis Onome-Egborge
When Tonto Dikeh suddenly shot up to the top of the entertainment industry in Nigeria, despite the fact that she was not a great actress, I was one of those who was a little irritated by her.
I thought she tried too hard to hug the limelight, she did virtually everything to be in the spotlight. I wrote her off as attention seeking, wishing she would have her day quick and blow away somewhere, on a long holiday!
Then, she did that song…
…in which she proved that her acting was actually much better than her singing…and dancing! At this point in her career, I had concluded that she was just an irritant of a really harsh sort.
Then, I watched the press romance her everyday, repost her reposts, create news about her….then, I just told myself, “if she has fans, good for them!”
So, I relaxed but did not buy her hype!
Then, as part of the production team for popular TV Talk Show, I was told we were waiting for Tonto Dikeh, she was a guest on the show. When she came into the studio, the live audience just went gaga, smiling and falling over themselves to get her attention.
I watched her closely.
As she finished with the presenters, before she left the studios, she made out time to be with the fans….quality time. She looked like a star, I had to admit! She sashayed with stardust, oohed at the right moments, puckered her lips for selfies with people she had only just met….no airs, as far as I could see!
I forgave her immediately, I just had to admit…I liked Tonto, I felt bad that I had not liked her before.
Watching an interview on her failed marriage, I can see that she wanted to make it work and that she simply adores her son.
The tales of domestic abuse, they are true.
She shared pictures and even talks about a set of pictures with the Nigerian High Commission in Ghana, where she had, at a time, run to for protection. She did say she could not share those pictures because she was naked in them. Na wa o!
Tonto, I feel you. I am sad your marriage did not work.
I am happy, however, that the guy did not kill you.
With this new passion I see in you, it can only get better. What’s more? She is born-again…not because of her failed marriage, she had been born-again long before she had her son, she says!
Be strong, but whatever you do….don’t write a book or further dramatize the situation.
Of the society girls that have had broken relationships recently, you stand out.
God bless you!