THIS THING CALLED LOVE (ii)
Life and Love are as easy or as hard as you choose to make it.
Last week, we talked about this thing called love and the choices we make. Looking back at my relationship timeline and the choices I have made, I give myself a pat on the back for scaling through all the things ‘I made myself’ go through. And still coming out in one piece.
Don’t get me wrong, I dated good people. We were just not right for each other.
But before we got to that stage where it became obvious to both parties that this wasn’t going to work, there would usually be lots of sorrow, tears, and blood – which could have been avoided.
With hindsight I cannot for the life of me imagine why I had put myself, or the other person through all that. Maybe I was on some psychological pain addiction or something. I don’t know. All I know is that I do not recognize that person from my past who was making all those decisions.
But then again, I guess I had to make those choices then, in order to learn from them and be a more mature person today.
However, the depth of stupid decisions men and women make in the name of this thing called love still has me baffled.
The smartest, most intelligent people sometimes make choices that even a toddler can tell is wrong, just because of this thing called love.
I may not know what love is, but I know one thing it isn’t.
If you are constantly in physical or emotional pain, inflicted by the person you say you love. That is not love.
Of course every relationship has it’s ups and downs. But if the downs far overshadow the ups, on a consistent basis, then that’s not love.
Unlike the song says, love is not wicked. Nor is it hard.
…patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it is not boastful, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil…
Simply put, love is beautiful, but humans can be ugly.
Don’t be ugly. Love and love truly.
Do you think love is naturally hard? Or is it people who make it so? Please share your thoughts below.
See you next week Saturday for another relationship post.